Everyone has 24 hours. It is up to you how you’ll spend it and what you’ll focus on. Here’s a week of strengthening your core, psychologically.
The point is to strengthen you, so try to do as much as you can alone for a week (except on day 7). And if you’re an introvert, who actually enjoys being alone, then try to go outside your own box and be on days 1-7 among people.
Think of the body as a ring one might own: the outside might be in turbulence, but the inside is calm. Or like in a hurricane, where the center is tranquil, while there’s a storm going on.
Sounds like meditation, but let’s go deeper.
Day 1. Have lunch alone in a restaurant / Get a group of people and have lunch in a restaurant
Day 2. Wake up at 5am, just because. Try to live A DAY 5AM Club -style
Day 3. Take a walk about 45min while listening to a playlist
Day 4. Do a crossword puzzle and try to do some sort of mathematical puzzle as well
Day 5. Yoga / deep streches
Day 6. Focus on the things that are not comfortable
Day 7. Go to coffees with a friend and make a vision board
“It has been 10 years since the publication of The Biology of Belief, Bruce Lipton’s seminal book on the relationship between mind and body that changed the way we think about our lives, our health and our planet. During that time, research in this field has grown exponentially – Lipton’s ground-breaking experiments have now been endorsed by more than a decade of scientific study.
In this greatly expanded edition, Lipton, a former medical school professor and research scientist, explores his own experiments and those of other leading-edge scientists that have unravelled in ever greater detail how truly connected the mind, body and spirit are. It is now widely recognised that genes and DNA do not control our biology. Instead, they are controlled by signals outside the cell, including energetic messages emanating from our thoughts.
This profoundly hopeful synthesis of the latest and best research in cell biology and quantum physics puts the power to create a healthy, joyous life back in our own hands. When we transform our conscious and subconscious thoughts, we transform our lives, and in the process help humanity evolve to a new level of understanding and peace.
Did you know that by thinking negatively about someone or something is only increasing your own stress and your own negativity? Your formerly positive energy will begin to be replaced by negative flow, and it will consume you faster than positivity ever would. So why would you ever want to be the reason you are feeling negative things? You wouldn’t.
For some reason, it’s negativity that resonates fast, and focusing on positivity seems like hard work sometimes.
In the past two years I’ve leaned in to a more mindful and respectful way of facing others. I also changed the way I think about people. That includes the people I don’t personally know, but might recognize from, for example, the media. I have practiced this by placing a real thought behind it. To practice living loving kind, is to make it happen. That’s it.
Especially for me, the year 2015 was a tremendous shake and a wake up to this method again, because I really at times struggled with connections with the people I cared about, to the point of total break-offs. And only because I hadn’t practiced “loving kindness” in my day to day, but more like pushing through my own way and sitting too much on my ego. Only by returning back to kinder ways of thinking, doing this meditation for example, I started to make these connections work again. I again released the thought of always being right and doing things just my way. Last year was a teaching one for me, and thankfully I did learn.
Everyone can relate to this. There isn’t a person on this planet who hasn’t thought negatively about someone or placed some sort of opinions about celebrities which they seem to know from the gossip news. You know, on that mark, the media does make a person look a certain way by discarding other aspects of their personalities. And there is nothing to add to that. When someone is in the eye of the gossipy lens and people feel or say negative things for it, I feel bad. At the end of the day, we’re all the same, and we’re all vulnerable at times.
The same goes for the people in our lives. I know people who get easily upset or who don’t ever step in another person’s shoes so to say, and start lashing out, which always underlines the same thing: “I am right. What they are saying, or doing, is wrong, and because I’m currently sitting on my ego, everyone should live and think just like I do.” I’ve been like this so many times in my life that I can’t keep count. But nowadays, it’s hard for me to listen to people’s loud egos. Sometimes I feel like I should have a sticker on my forehead that says: Live and let live.
And then there are the people who have it amazingly together. The ones who are so patient with themselves and everyone else, and who won’t say one bad thing about anyone, including themselves. I’m in awe of them. I just recently met one person who is like this. The energy they have around them is welcoming, lacking of any negativity.
If someone is thinking that they don’t need to ever change, fantastic, and good for them. Something like living kind has to be a full-on mental shift, and it takes many fall-outs. However, the results are remarkable: more patience, deeper relationships and more mindfulness.
Even if it’s tuning your thoughts back every day to ‘how am I feeling about this and that?’ and ‘how should I really react to this person, and not add more negativity in this situation?’. I assure you guys, you will start to gain these great mindful tools once you start this practice.
I wish you are going to try this Loving-kindness meditation with me. And I have to say, I don’t usually like to meditate, because I think I’m too “on the go” of a person to focus through all the thoughts that pile up and clutter the mind, with the basic practice of silent meditation. But I will try to implement that in my life this year. However, I do like Loving-kindness, because it gives your mind these tasks to do through the meditation, so I think it’s both fun and heart-opening as well as helpful for focusing.
Welcome Leena Vihavainen-Müller! I met Leena for the first time over a year ago and we talked hours about healthy lifestyle (or I listened mostly) and we drank organic tea. Meeting Leena was a powerful experience: her stable and strong presence works as an inspiration to a lot of people. She is a yoga-teacher and a yoga-therapist (etc.) plus studied medicine in Germany for couple years. Now I can’t wait for you to guys to read and hear Leena’s wisdom. And because there is so much material, we will spread them out in different posts and in sounds on Soundcloud (Leena’s interviews years ago when the author worked at Yle when there was 1 day that she got to actually decide a subject, only in Finnish). X Johanna
“I’m Leena Vihavainen-Müller. I’ve lived abroad for 43 years, and I now live in lake scenery and enjoy the beauty of Finnish nature on my walks.
I am a yoga teacher and yoga therapist; studied both in Finland and in India. I’ve tought yoga in different countries for years, and I still teach it in Finland. I studied energetic horse osteopathy in Germany. I am also studying French, and stress management and self development in French. This year I started to study Chromotherapy in Germany.
Through practicing yoga I have learned to be conscious and present. Yoga practice is everyday present in my life. When my horse got ill I wanted to know how I could help him get better, what had gone wrong in his life. I got interested in energetic horse osteopathy, which I studied in Germany. My horse was the best yoga teacher I had. I learned to appreciate and value life, patience, trust and love, and I am truly grateful for that part of my life.
“Respect and value your body and see to it that the body is doing well.. Then the mind is doing well. If you feel good then you radiate good energy around you, and you can make others feel good as well.” Yoga is a lifestyle that includes more things than just doing the yoga practice.
“”In every situation I try to consider how I am standing, how I am breathing, what am I thinking, am I in the moment.. Am I in this moment or am I here, but my thoughts are somewhere else.””
Johanna: Before going to more mindful things let’s talk about nutrition, lymph circulation, yoga breathing etc.
“Mental speed is stress. Get moving, that takes some stress away. Not so much protein, not so much carbohydrates. And drinking water is the most important thing.”
A holding pattern means that an airplane is on a specific holding course before landing. To sum up. At least that’s what I read, because I’m definitely not a pilot.
So, I have no idea how the words came to me and kept repeating at the back of my mind for a week or so: “Holding patterns”, “You are on a holding pattern.” I felt growing tiredness, lack of interest in the things I had been raging about before, and I couldn’t listen to my ‘recently listened’ list on Spotify anymore. So I Googled the words and sure enough, the wise web dictionary stated my missing one-sentence explanation for the feelings of it.
A holding pattern is “a state of waiting or suspended activity or progress” [merriam-webster]. While ‘holding pattern‘ could mean different things to different people, for me that meant being stuck on the things that worked for me a month ago and still trying to implement them to a new month and new energies.
You know, every day is different for you, every month certainly is different, as are years. We have to change according to them. That’s what my holding pattern was about. I’m sure I, and others, have multiple similar patterns that might be outdated but go unnoticed.
All the things that worked well, fine and super in January, and I got tons of energy from, started latently pulling me backwards. Weeks went by, until I was so tired and over-emotional, still running on my January feelings in the middle of February, that only a full stop: a sit-down and a meditation could break. And I released my former patterns, and started focusing on new ones. A blank page. Or as Taylor would say: a Blank Space. Either way, they are both very creative.
As we become more mindful and focused in our lives and the energies around us, it’s easier to spot any imbalances. I’m still learning to be mindful and I don’t think the process ever ends. It wouldn’t have been a huge disaster if I’d kept my blinders on for this. But as I felt a growing disconnection with all the tasks I had been doing in the past four weeks, I really set myself up to energetically brighter and more focused days, and weeks ahead by visiting ground zero. Well, until the next shake to change things around. But hopefully that will be with the flow of life, not holding onto what has happened and trying to carry it into the future.
I hope this makes sense to you somehow. Of course, you will take it as only you would and shape it to your own life. I have loved and related to this Heraclitus quote: “The only thing that is consistent is change.”
To all my amazing and dear friends who are stuck in their beloved patterns and actually really enjoying them, Heraclitus is right. In the end, change is inevitable, and if we can get over that fact, it becomes easier to change things up constantly in our lives. Welcome new people, new energy, new clothes, new music, new places, new books, new things to look forward to, new destinations, new plans, new surroundings, new things to focus on and accept them gladly. I decided, kind of intuitively that at least every few weeks I’ll start looking for old patterns or feelings that should go. Especially now as we’re entering spring, which is all about awakening and renewing. What a perfect time.